Finding Rest in Friendship and Slowing Down
When I first started making plans for Spring Break, I realized my family and I did not have a break at the same time. This break would not be an opportunity to pack up and vacate for even a few days. I was not overly disappointed, however, because hubby and I have some special summer plans that are developing.
So I immersed myself in Plan B with a cleaning schedule to rival the power of the “white tornado.” (For all of you youngsters out there, Ajax ran a commercial in the 1970s about its scouring power equaling that of a white tornado.) For one week, I would accomplish the unlikely if not impossible in the field of cleaning. Not only would I do the usual spring cleaning: dusting blinds, vacuuming draperies, dusting fans and ceiling lights, washing baseboards, etc., but I would clean out our bedroom closet and reline the kitchen pantry as well.
Just thinking about all that work, now that spring break is in its twilight hours, leaves me exhausted. No wonder I lacked enthusiasm for this school vacation and was dreading two more months of work until summer.
As I flipped open my planner to schedule the chores for each day, I felt the Holy Spirit urge me to write down at the head of my weekly planner: “Spend the week with friends.”
Well, that was luxury, I thought. But I could feel the pull in my heart to make room for that face to face with some friends amidst the face to dirt that I had planned.
I wrote my list of tasks, divided the work into days, and then realized that it really would be okay if I did not accomplish everything on my list. Picking up the phone, I called a friend to discuss some details for an event, when I discovered she suddenly had some free time in her schedule that week. We made luncheon plans for our favorite tea house.
From the moment I pulled my van into the tea house parking lot, I could feel the relaxation and emotional release seep into my pores~slowly. Slowly was the key. With every step, every glance, my hurried spirit uncoiled another link of a tightly wound spring. Roses greeted us at the hostess desk and my eyes drunk in the delicate touches surrounding me~dainty patterned teacups, white crocheted table coverings, flowing floor length pink tablecloths, silk floral centerpieces whispering a welcome, and a white porcelain plaque with scrolled handwriting inviting us to recline at the table. We asked our hostess if we could dine on the floral lined patio in the still pleasant spring desert air.
Here in this “girly heaven,” as my friend and I nicknamed the tea house, I experienced the emotional rest and true peace the Lord had planned for my spring break. Face to face, in friendship, we chatted and laughed. We allowed time to pass, never looking at our watches, as we soaked up the beauty of a softly cascading waterfall and meandering stream bordered by fuchsia and purple petunias.
I could not tell you what we talked about, just that our already precious friendship grew even deeper that day as the Holy Spirit delighted us with refreshment, joy, relaxation, and the beauty of the Lord’s creation. If I had cleaned every nook and cranny of our home, checked off every task on my list as done, I would not have experienced the peace and sense of true accomplishment that I knew that day in the light of our friendship shared over tea amongst God’s beauty.
I have found that rest does not come from having a completed “to do list” but from a lasting friendship with those who love the Lord.
“Do not forsake your own friend or your father’s friend;” Proverbs 27:10 NASB
“A friend is–a push when you’ve stopped; a word when you’re lonely; a guide when you’re searching; a smile when you’re sad; a song when you’re glad.” Charlie “T” Jones
And a rest when you’re overburdened.
Praying that you find His true rest for you this day.
<$BlogFeedsVertical$>
<$BlogItemFeedLinks$>
Lovely. SOmetimes it is so hard to pull away from the tasks at hand, but when we do, it can be shocking how uncomplicated making that time really was. It makes us want to make that space more often. I have always found that good friends and fancy tea (or coffee) make those spaces pretty special. Thanks for sharing 🙂
What a very special spot to unwind and soak in beauty.
What a beautiful, calming post. I felt myself calming, slowing, resting vicariously. Enjoy your friends.
Beautiful post. Beautiful pictures. I love the idea of ‘girly heaven’. You blessed my day!
This is such a beautiful post. Spending time with good friends is an important way to refresh ourselves.
You reminded me of a day, several years ago, when I had a day to myself–an exceedingly rare event. I spent most of the day cleaning out the bedroom closet. While I had a sense of accomplishment, I later regretted that I hadn’t done something more restorative. That was before I realized that it’s good–and not selfish–to take care of ourselves.
So true! I love how friendship keeps me going when I just want to quit. A friend who loves the Lord is a bit of refreshment like no other.
Your top photo caught my eye! My mother has (had) tea cups exactly like those two! I believe I own both of them now, but they are packed away in a box in my basement. You have encouraged me to bring them upstairs and use them!
Linda
May each of you find the rest the Lord calls you to, and may it bring you joy beyond what you have planned.
And, Linda, get those teacups out to enjoy today. For this day is the special occasion the Lord has given you. Thanks for visiting.
Sheryl, how true! Friendships founded in the Lord bring refreshment and endurance when we want to give up. So glad you have found that treasure of friendship.
Melissa, glad you discovered that time spent in rest, perhaps with others or just alone with the Lord, brings a greater satisfaction than a clean house. It’s a lesson I have to keep learning.
Susan and Better is Possible, “girly heaven” is a beautiful respite in the desert. And divinely feminine.
Dunlizzie, we are so work oriented that it really is hard to pull away. But I have learned that we must be ready for the Lord’s blessed interruptions. This Bible Study is teaching me!
From My Heart to Each of Yours,
Janis
Looks like you had a wonderful time. Our tea was yesterday afternoon. It’s so nice to actually spend time with fellow bloggers. There were 9 of us there this time. Those little tea rooms are really special.
Blessings,
Charlotte
Oh what a lovely spring break time! Time with friends are what keep me going so often when i just want to crash and burn. They are God’s blessing when I am weak.
A tea house get away with a friend sounds lovely and relaxing ideed. Flowers are beautiful too. I found you on Ann Kroekers “slow down fast” site. Her post was Music and Silence.